♥ ♥ Joie & Mark ♥ ♥
♥ ♥ Pari & Azam ♥ ♥
I wanted to share mine & Azam's story with you :)
Well , me & my lovely boyfriend & also my would be hubby , Azam met here in India this April , when he was here on a travel trip.
I met him for the first time on April 16 , 2011 , through one my friends .
We went out to some adventue park , & had fun ( although we didn't taked much , since we were both quite shy & it was our first meeting )
But i was noticing one thing , that throughout all this time , he was continuosly staring at me :)
I noticed him doing that .
Then we met again the very next day & we were both more comfortable with each other this time.
Finally he went back on 22 April , 2011.
After he went back to Afghanistan , we used to talk over phone daily .
There was something starnge about him & I was getting attracted towards him from the very first day & vice-versa.
We used to talk for hours & before we could both know it , we fell in love , I know it was fast , but this was suppossed to happen.
I can never get a better guy than him.
I have placed all my trust in him.
I know he is the one for me & the one with whom I want to marry :)
He said he is in love with me & he wants to make me his wife someday & I also told him about my feelings .
We started our relationship on 1 May , 2011 :-)
I'm proud to be his girlfriend.
He means the world to me.
All I know is that without him , My life can't go .
He was here for 15 days & he went back today .
I swear I had the best time of my life with him .
He stayed with my family , we had a great time .
I told my mom about him since the start .
She likes him :-)
I just hope everything turns out right & we can get together soon.
I'm deeply in love with Azam.
He means everything to me now :)
Keep it strong :)
Don't give up :)
This Distance ain't forever :)
All the best !With regard
Pari & Azam
♥ ♥ Larry & AJ ♥ ♥
I've first met my husband when i was 17 and he was 21;) He was my first boyfriend and i am also his first;)
We've enjoyed being together for 9 months but time had come that he has to leave. There i started counting days like forever. It was really hard being away from him, the distance between us is killing me. He is a seafarer, a Marine Engineer so he goes home for only once a year and would only stay with me for about 2 months and he has to leave again. He would be in the dark, rough seas to fulfill his dream of a better future for me. We're in this situation for 5 yrs now. But whats keeps us strong is our love and faith for each other. I never get tired waiting the love of my life coming back home. Despite the distance between us, i never felt that he loves me less. June 9, 2011 he made me his wife like he promised;) He made me feel the happiest i could ever be..We love each other so much.. i mean we are crazy over each other and this feeling will stay forever;) We have both proven that LOVE definitely knows no distance;)
♥ ♥ Julie & Marvin ♥ ♥
My name is Marvin and her Name is Julie! We've been apart now for 7 months and shes going back on my birthday on March which is 5 months more! :)
Well, before she left my country, I put her name on my skin so I'm branded by her only and to show Julie how I love her, and waiting for her. I am patiently waiting for her! I love her so much :) I got that tattoo on the day of her flight you know :) Shes been crying, in the tattoo parlour & even on the way to the airport :) I love my julie! :) Thank you so much for featuring us and putted on your blog! What a pleasure :)
♥ ♥ Eupryll Mae & Zandro ♥ ♥
This couple has been in a long distance relationship for 3 years and have just recently met! Eupryll Mae sent me the photos of their very first visit together. The photos show they are clearly a wonderful couple! They had to say goodbye again, but will cherish their memories until they meet again. I wanted to thank them both for inspiring others who love from a distance.
What tests you most, as a couple, in your LDR?
Kelly
I have to say immigration. not knowing exactly when we'll be together and not having it in our hands. really we have to have a stamp to actually be allowed to be together. it makes me upset at times but we're in the home stretch now. Visa interview is May 2nd and hopefully we'll be successful in this process.
Also time difference. It’s hard when we both work the same because the time difference makes me go to work when he's coming home and me coming home when he has to sleep. so it doesn't leave us a lot of time to talk. but we are going strong. 3 years this august and we are getting married this summer :)
Justine
When new people interfere or threaten your relationship, Keeping your trust with them strong.
Trina
tests: I agree about the work/daily schedule. I may be extremely sleepy after my day and with him working 2nd shift, his is just starting by the time I get home. because of his job, we can't always talk while he is working. mostly, that is out of respect and privacy. he'll call just to say I love you and then get going. in general, whether couples are together or apart, communication will always be a big test.
guys + girls = genders do communicate AND hear differently. the thing in "tests" though, I think, is the 2 people need to be mature. With maturity comes with knowing how to deal/cope, keep it interesting, and commitment. No matter the distance, if the person really wants the other, he or she will not allow any "outside influences" to step in. Talk about values, morals, expectations. Just talk. Oh, and definitely listen!
Michelle
Not being able to be in his arms. Not being able to just hang out or go out and do something together. Having to spend holidays apart. Family and friends that don't believe it's going to work out.
Jamie
when other girls try to interfere in the relationship and take him away from me...I already had one girl do that to me :(
Nika
"Not being able to be in his arms. Not being able to just hang out or go out and do something together. Having to spend holidays apart. Family and friends that don't believe it's going to work out."
I totally agree. Also, there's an 8h time difference and busy schedules (faculty, work).
Caro
not being able to talk to him every day
Valerie
not being able to share the physical part of our relationship, not being able to spend time with him whenever I want to , and mostly the special occasions that were apart like birthday’s, etc..
Keisha
When something good happens to me I want to be able to share it with him right away. After a long hard day at work I would love to go home to him so he can hug me and tell me the next day will be better. It’s really hard not to have that. There are things like that that he is the only one I want to share things with and he’s not there to do so. Then I get frustrated and have to remember that it’s not that he’s not there because he doesn’t want to be its just our circumstances at the moment.
Patricia
OMG me too. it’s been a hard time being away from him especially when he is going through something like he had surgery this yr n it broke my heart that I couldn’t be there oh like what u said sometimes you feel like he is the only one that can understand n u wish he could be there to assure u it will better. I guess just the fact that u/he can’t be there when u/he need/s u the most. so frustrating: (
Keisha
Yeah I know. Sometimes I know he’s had a bad day at work and I just want to hug him and show my support but I can't be there like I would like to!
Shannon
he's the only guy I've shared kisses with, so I really miss kissing. also, it does really anger me when his lady friends insult me and are mean to him and try to break us up. it was really hard when his dad didn't let him some out for Christmas. it was the saddest holiday I ever had.
Alisa
We enjoy a lot of the same activities so not being able to share those things together is hard.
Fabian
I really hope it works out for you, I have the same kind of problem ... all the best
Sam
I'd say not having him here with me, especially now with all sorts of stress eating away at me. Just to be able to feel him here next to me would make it so much easier.
It's hard because not only is this a LDR, but also an online relationship, or at least online-based, and my family and friends aren't totally supportive of that. They're getting more used to the idea, but I'm always having to hear about how he could be some serial killer. It annoys me that they don't seem to think that I've thought this through and considered the consequences, because I have. I just know I trust him.
Also, since he lives in Canada, and I in the states, there is the trouble with immigration and all of that, which others have mentioned before. In a few years though, I'm going to be working to move up there with him.
Stephanie
not being able to talk about the random little things that you talk about in person. not being able to snuggle and hug and physically comfort and show our love for each other.
Rhiannon
I agree, my relationship was mainly online (he doesn't have a computer anymore though) and my friends and family are the same, my family is use to the idea but my friends keep asking if I'm sure he isn't cheating and that sort of thing which is really hard to hear!
Bianca
Yes, I guess it's about time. I am all awake, when he is all sleepy after work. There are 6 hours between us. And, of course, when network doesn’t work.
Jess
My friends. Not only do they think I'm crazy for being involved in an LDR after we had only been going out for 3 months prior to him leaving, but because he's moved to Las Vegas for work (he's a musician), they constantly say nasty things like "Aren't you afraid of groupies/strippers/insert random female threat here?" or "You know, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas..." or say "How do you know you can trust him?" The fact is, I trust him more than anyone else I've ever met. I have complete faith in him, he's the kindest, most respectful man I've ever met.
My boyfriend is also 21 years older than me (I'm 20), and so I have yet another testing point for that. It's never been a problem between my boyfriend and I, I'm a musician as well and I have more in common with him than anyone else I've ever met, but my friends loudly voice their opinions on how wrong they think it is, and even before he left they refused to meet him or allow him to attend any get-togethers around them. They have completely written him off without ever having met him. I love my boyfriend completely, and we both know that we want to spend the rest of our lives with each other, but my friends make it very hard to be as completely happy as we should be, on top of the overwhelming distance that is now between us (I'm in British Columbia, Canada, he's in Nevada). If push comes to shove, I know I'm going to have to look for new friends if they don't smarten up and learn to accept who I love and learn to accept the fact that he can be trusted and that an LDR was the best possible way for two people who love each other very much to continue to do so.
Zoe
When people ask me if I'm crazy. In the first 3 months, I kept it really quiet and only my CLOSEST friends knew I was in a long distance relationship, but on the 4th month, me & my friends were hanging out, and this random 17 year old guy said, "I hear your dating Matt. I didn't think he could handle it, but now I see you. Wow. Good Luck, Zoe." One of my not so close friends was like, " Oh My God. I Have To Go Tell The Whole World Now. Bye-Bye!" & I didn’t even know the guy! by the next day, my whole school knew, and they all asked questions, like: "Where does he live?" *Pennsylvania* "THATS SO FAR! I bet your making him up, you loser!" It’s really upsetting, because I love him with all my heart, but he lives so far !! Richmond, BC <--4,700Miles-->Tobyhanna, PA.
I probably get to see him in August, but there’s no guarantees. We've been together for 11 months and 1 week, but still a lot o people don't believe me.
Jonathon
Not being able to show her how much I love her, and not being able to comfort her when she's feeling down, and when she says things that hurt me, but doesn't mean to say them.
Carol
Being far away is already difficult enough for me but I have to admit that when people try to interfere directly or indirectly it really bothers me. I had a few arguments about it...but we just have to keep strong
Marie
Not being able to hear his voice or see him on the video chats anymore...time zones were never a problem for us. We both have easy work hours.
It's so hard sometimes that I just break down. It IS taking a toll on me.
I probably just joined this group coz I didn't want to feel like I'm the only one going through this...
Samantha
Jennifer, we are all in this together and I'm sure that we are all willing to listen and offer advice based on our own experiences. It is easy to forget that there are other people feeling the same, but talking with people who really do understand what it is like to be in a LDR can make a world of difference.
keep strong :)
The hardest thing for me is missing out on all the little things that other 'normal' couples take for granted, like spending the weekends together, coming home at the end of a long day to a kiss and a cuddle. another thing I find difficult to cope with is when I see my friends who are in couples arguing all the time and taking each other’s company for granted. they just don't realize how lucky they are.
Richard
I agree entirely with Sam, but for me, there is an extra problem/test, we have an open relationship, due to us both still being young and unable to actually come up with the funds for a flight since we live in different countries. so though we have come to an agreement... whenever I see her having a boyfriend... I get really jealous, and emotional... she reassures me it isn't a problem... but she is the only person I have been able to think about for the past few months... it really is getting hard for me...
Nicky
What tests us the most is not having him home on those special days. birthday’s xmas etc... after a long day not having him there for a hug. and the fact he is in the merchant navy so he can’t call very often and I worry about him.
Malin
it’s hard not being able to kiss him or hug him because we are very physical when we are together..we would always hold hands or just lay next to each other, he would always be right there. also joking with him, he is like my best friend and we'd always had things to share and joke about, over the internet now it’s harder. also the time difference is hard, and visa..and jealousy, we both can get jealous at times. the hardest thing is not being able to fall asleep because I don’t have him to hold me at night. but I know that will come till and end, and I can’t wait to see him again :)
Alberto
your bf should not let them to approach him in that way. he has to take the responsibility of your relationship and he should distance himself from them. he should do that if you are more precious for him than those sluts.
Donna
Not being able to look in his eyes, hold him and make love with him, of course! But also simple things, like not having someone to go to the movies with, or take a stroll on the beach or grab a bite in a restaurant. Can I physically do those things on my own? Of course, but it SUCKS! 70 days till we are together again- WOOT!
Kirtika
not being able to talk to him for months & not being able to sleep at night because I never heard from him. Not being able to spend special occasions such as (birthdays; anniversary; valentine’s day).Not having him there to talk to when I’m really down. The hardest thing for me is that he is a daredevil, so I have all these unpleasant thoughts crossing my mind.
Bev
When he's been to stay and it’s time for him to go , I worry that I'll never see him again and that he doesn't miss me as much as I do him , so stupid because he's constantly reassuring me !
And when I can't share the ups and downs of my day with him etc. So many things ....
Bev
this year not being able to spend Christmas with him, I’ve told him I don't mind, but I'm really upset about it. Being the nice kind understanding person that I am I have said I understand and I don't mind, but I do and I'm gutted.
Samantha
this year will be the second year in a row that I’m not going to be able to spend my birthday with my boyfriend and it breaks my heart.
Bev
I feel for you Samantha, it hurts so much knowing you can't be with them .
Rhiannon
What tests us the most...like everyone else has said, not having him there when I come home and have had a horrible day and just really need a hug, I wish he was there to tell me it would be ok. Not being able to spend special days together is horribly hard as well, like birthdays, Valentine’s day, Christmas is really hard. Not being able to take care of him, he's had to have many surgeries in the last year and I haven't been able to be with him. When he's had a hard day at work (he works at a hospital) and he's tired, emotionally beaten up and I can't comfort him. When he's crying and I can't do anything about it.
Other people make it extremely hard as well. We've been together for almost 2 years now but it's internet based and people are always trying to convince me to leave him and find someone close. When all my friends keep asking if I'm sure that I trust him, that he could be cheating on me, lying to me, be someone completely different then he says he is it hurt a lot. I trust him completely, I trust him with my life and I love him more than anything in the world and it hurts that people can't see that. The distance is hard enough without people adding to it. The girls that don't respect that he's dating me are hard too. The jealousy when they hit on him, try taking him from me, that’s hard too. I guess the whole emotional beating that you get from the distance and not being able to even touch each other or hold each other’s hands makes it really hard. It's easy to give up hope sometimes.
Nadia
hi guys I’m Nadia and I’m in America and Kingsley my bf is in south Africa we have not seen each other a full year now and I really miss him so much we together two years and have not seen each other one out of the two. I came to America because it was my dream and he said he wants me to be happy and live my dream which was so nice of him but now we fight over things that does not even make sense I wish I could see him for Christmas, only if it had not been for USA embassy he would have at least visited me once.
Rhiannon
I completely understand your fears Kirti, my boyfriend loves doing stupid daredevil things and I always have nightmares about it and being afraid that it'll be the last time I talk to him :P Hang in there
Pauline
not being able to be there for each other when we're going through issues... one hug can take away so much when it's from him. we're both students, and have to scrape up money to at least be able to buy a bus ticket to go see each other.. but in all, we give it our best coz we want to be together. We see a future together and that's what drives us, helps us hang on!!!! Power the Long Distance!!!!
Sara
Seeing other couples together, and wishing that it was you with your bf/gf and when I'm sad, cause he always knows just the right way of making things all better
Joanne
My jealousy and weariness about other women.
Most of my prior relationships, the guy ended up cheating on me. They'd "realize" they were still in love with their ex-girlfriend and leave me. Or they'd start talking to some girl on the net, meet in person when he'd say he had to go out on duty for a week, and leave me for some girl he met over the net. My challenge in a relationship has always been holding on to a guy. It seemed that every time a girl would pop into their life whether just as a friend or whatever at first, it'd end up becoming more than that.
So, naturally, being in an LDR is hard on my issues because my guy is surrounded by college girls more his age and who are a lot closer than I am to him. He gets to see them every day in person and I only get to see him on cam and stuff. I get nervous that one day he'll feel like this whole relationship isn't worth the trouble when he could easily find a younger girl who lives in the same town as him.
But, after many arguments over my paranoia, I'm getting better and cooling off a bit about being jealous of other girls he speaks with (unless the girl gives me good reason and proof that she's trying something to take his attention off me and steal him for the taking, which has already happened and he never bit).
So, other girls test us (at least, ME) the most. But I do trust him and love him very much and I just know he's so different than the other guys I dated who couldn't keep their pants on for a certain amount of time.
Pony
everything. the pain of not seeing her for years at a time is absolutely crushing. thinking about her out with her friends who get to see her all the time..who know things about her that I couldn't possibly know..who get to be with her so much that they take her for granted. it tears me apart when people who are close to her get crushes on her, because they get to touch her. they get to hug her. they get to talk to her and smell her and hear her voice. if she wanted to be with them, it would be so easy for her...and I certainly wouldn't blame her. (though at the same time I am so thankful that she doesn't give into the temptation of someone she could actually be with..)
and I think the worst thing of all is when she's hurting. when I know that someone's really hurting her and I can't tell them off or kick their ass (which I'd very happily do)..when I know that she's having a problem but has no one to turn to because she's so giving that she takes on everyone else's problems while letting them ignore hers..when I know that she's crying but I can't hold her and wipe her tears away..and make things okay for her...that's definitely the hardest thing..
Judah
The fact that he's surrounded by girls and I know they want him, even if he says they don't. They're girls, they want him, he's hot. BUT HE IS MINE! And that's y he's wearing a ring. CUZ HE'S MINE! They can't have him. HE IS MINE!
Shinty
Not being able to show him how much I love him and care about him because I'm so far away, and not being able to comfort him when he's feeling unhappy. What also tests me the most is the lack of support from my family and some of my friends. They think he might want me to fly out there to be with him because he's a pervert, but I'm not as naive as my family thinks I am. I already knew what they were going to say, and despite what they think, I know that he loves me for me as much as I love him for him.
The Little Things That He or She Does that Mean the Most?
Chandler
I wake up to a text message from him every morning, it might be funny, random, lyrics he wrote, sweet, etc, just so "I'm the first thing you think about in the morning."
He also helps cure my insomnia by singing me to sleep. He's the singer in a band so when he sings it's not trying to be sweet, it actually is because he's good.
Joanne
A simple, genuine smile from him as he says that he loves me is enough to make me feel amazing. And when he randomly sends me flowers at work! I get to show off to my co-workers how sweet of a man I have!!! It's awesome. ♥
Rachel
When he writes me poems, how songs remind him of me, he wrote and sung a song about me and recorded it, love when he texts me saying goodmorning, theres so much he does for me to make me smile
Judah
The handwritten, sincere love letters that I get every so often, every e-mail, every phone call (even when we're fighting it still means everything to hear his voice), every IM, just everything he can do 4 me. When we were together for Thanksgiving break, he massaged my back and ran me a bath and brought me medicine and water because of my intense back pain, and he helped me with my insomnia issues (they only happen when I'm with him, coincidentally, because I don't wanna sleep @ all when I could be spending all the sleep time with him), his prayers for me, especially when I'm going thru a struggle and to know that he's willing to be a man and stick it out and be with me through all the hell, and not run away to other girls, it just makes our love so much more stronger, more genuine, and I can't hardly wait to be with him for good. Thank you Lord for great man like mine!
Aura
That it is so sweet.. I think it is very useful to write about how wonderful is your sweetheart becuase that reminds you why you are in a LDR and why you are in love with him/ her.
About my bf I love to hear his voice when I wake up every day, I love when he tells me about things I would like or things he does thinking of me, one day he drove for 6 hours just to be online and chat with me.
When we are together, he is so gentle, kind and romantic with me.. he makes me feel like a queen, the most beautiful and luckiest woman . He shows me every day I am the most important person to him and I am so blessed to have him in my life.
Thanks for reading .. it is great to share this with people who really understand.
Blessings
Jillian
I love it when my BF sends me random sweet texts during the day to let me know that he is thinking of me. He also calls me almost every day first thing to let me know that I was the first thing on his mind....
He never lets a day go by without telling me how much he misses me....When he supports me in every way just by listening when I need to vent or making me laugh when I need it..:)
He always makes me feels like I am the most important thing to him....and MOST importantly, he treats my son like his own...that's when I knew he loved me.
He is everything to me, and I will wait for however long I need to just to be with him forever....
Best Wishes To All,
Wes
I am an American and she is Dutch, so the distance is an issue, but I feel so damn lucky to have her in my life. The little things matter the most, random texts and little projects she does for me really make me happy. She is there for me when my family and friends are not, and I trust her completely with my heart.
Savannah
The way you tell me how much you love me, every day.
The way you tell me how much I mean to you, how perfect I am to you and how much you wanna be with me.
The sweet texts you sent me last week, when I couldn't be there to chat with you.
The little things we both thought, without even knowing the other person was thinking them too. Untill now.
The way you'd open the door of your car for me.
The way you'd kiss me in the morning, when we'd wake up together, last autumn.
All those sweet little touches.
There's so much.
I love you Wes.
Bev
So many things..........the way he warms my side of the bed for me ! ........ stamps "i love you " on the slices of bread he toasts me for breakfast !
The little surprises he brings me when he comes to stay
When he puts up with all my little insecurities and moans and groans and says he still loves me whatever !
When i come in from work and he makes my lunch ..such a treat !
So many lovely things, and just knowing that he loves me is wonderful !
Jen
He loves me....simple as that!
Kelly
He loves me for me ~ he's shown me what it is to love..we've learnt together. There's no words. It just is :) !!!!!!!!!!!!!! He makes me happy!!
Sarah
Receiving messages, texts or emails when I am sleeping or not on the messenger because then it makes me feel like he is thinking about me through out the day.
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